In the previous blog I shared some of the most popular disempowering shopping habits that a lot of women struggle with and also some tips on how to break them.
Are you buying more and more, wearing less, and start experiencing a lot of frustration and disappointment during your shopping trips? You may be experiencing some of these unhealthy shopping habits:
Constantly buying the same things
How to break it: if you find yourself buying the same style of clothing it could because of a lack of knowledge on what suit your personality and body shape or because you’ve lost that confidence into trying new things or you just can be bothered. If you simply feel you can’t be bothered to try new things, ask yourself whether you’ve given up on “looking after yourself”. Register for a workshop top open your mind to new options and get to know yourself or work with a personal stylist who can inspire you and teach how to get out of your style rut.
Buying the same item in 2,3 or 4 colours
How to break it: I find that most of the time this habit comes from a “scarcity mentality” or from a “negative attitude” towards shopping. When you shop thinking that it’s going to be hard to find something that suit you or that you don’t have time to keep looking around or come back another day, it’s kind of easy to buy the same items in few colours. Finally, you find something that your like or suits you; so you’ll buy it in 3 different colours. This is not a very healthy way to shop for your wardrobe because eventually you will feel that you are wearing the same things and that you lack versatility. My suggestion would be,start journaling (buy a new notebook) your fashion purchases and every time you fall into this habit, dig into your emotions and mind. Write down the conversation that is happening inside you; i.e. what made you buy that garment in few colours, what could had happened if you bought just one garment in your most favourite colour? etc. Please avoid using the question WHY, because your mind immediately will go into “defense mode” and emotionally you will feel attacked; consequently, you won’t be in the mood to self-enquiry.
You give into every sale email or promotion (they make you all of the sudden need something)
How to break it: If you’ve subscribed to many stores’ newsletters, perhaps it’s time now to start unsubscribing so you don’t see what’s happening in stores now. Remember out of sight out of mind. If you are physically shopping for something in particular and you find some amazing sales that feel almost painful to miss, remind yourself why did you originally come to the shops for. You need to distract yourself, so you can leave the shop, go for a walk, stop for a coffee and read something that interests you or ring a friend.
You constantly forget or can’t be bothered to return items you’re not happy with
How to break it: Simply stop buying clothes without trying them. Become more knowledgeable, empowered and confident in your purchases decisions through learning the skills of styling and dressing your shape (through group session or workshops or one-on-ones sessions). Also take photo of what you have in your wardrobe so you could get a I good idea of what you could be mixing this new item with. If you don’t have anything at home to mix and match don’t buy it. If what you’re about to buy is going to be a staple piece or investment in your wardrobe because you’re starting to build your wardrobe from scratch put some thoughts into it, such as “Does this pair of jeans flatter my shape? Does it make feel and look great? Do I really need a light blue denim or would it be more practical to get a dark blue denim instead?”
Using fashion as a kind of instant gratification
How to break it: A lot of women, including me, get an immediate sense of pleasure and gratification when shopping and buying but once you become more conscious and aware that you’re on a mission to boost your confidence and create a minimal, practical and versatile wardrobe you will be less inclined to use fashion as a tool to temporarily fulfil you. In that moment when you’re about to make that decision of hitting the shops, take few breaths and allow yourself to explore other activities which will bring you pleasure and gratification without jeopardising your confidence, wardrobe, emotional being or health i.e. going for a walk, listening to an inspiring podcast, buying something for a friend or a stranger (as a random act of kindness), etc.
If you think you are experiencing some unhealthy shopping habits, please do something about it. Look for help and take some actions to upgrade them for empowering habits; you will automatically boost your confidence, your wardrobe will thank you and you will feel liberated.
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